Is it possible that your dad has sundowner's? People with this disease seem to get worse when they are confined to a house for a long period of time, such as a long cold winter. They also tend to get worse when the sun goes down, hence the name sundowner's.

Thank you for responding. I love your idea and I am anxious to share it with my mom. I never know how to respond when he tries to pay me for his coffee in the morning at breakfast, not realizing he's at home and I'm his daughter. Dad is having a much better day today. It helps when he can be outside keeping busy. Seems like once the sun goes down things take a turn. The long long cold winter didn't help when he was housebound for so long. Blessings to you and your family as well.

Could be both. Never thought of Sundowners, but she is at her lowest ( depression and anxiety and hypervigilant around 10:30 at night

Hi kjhayes

How sad it must be to see your dad like this. I know it made me sad to see my mother in law like this. I think we did both. We tried to correct, sometimes it seemed like it was arguing, but it was really frustration, trying to just make her understand. Sometimes we just agreed because it was easier. I came to do it better as I looked at this woman I loved. So I did what was easier for her. I would ease around the questions, not always speaking the truth, but not lying. Say a question like: Her - "Are we going home today?" Me - "Not today". Her - "When", Me - "I'll need to check on that". I tried to make it as easy on her and as easy on me as possible. That seemed to help and work the best way for us.

Good luck
God bless you