Monique9: My shower has been modified so I'm able to shower whenever I wish without assistance. This was accomplished by replacing the door with a curtain, providing a shower chair with hand holds that can be set to the exact needed height, fixing three grab bars, one on either side of the opening and a long one on wall facing the opening., Installing a convenient nook to contain soap dish, shampoo, etc. Installing single lever to control water temperature and provide consistent water stream (very important!) I also have a detachable hose nozzle head but seldom use it because it requires movement that I'm not comfortable with. Also had shower floor raised so there is no step. Plumber installed a basin underneath the floor so it can never flood and a fan to prevent mold from forming. Oh yes, and a ceiling light. I can truthfully say that I feel safer taking a shower than almost anywhere else. For reference, stage 4 PD, age 96.

I have a shower chair that is like a bench that slides into the shower. The long shower head mounts on the wall and I can pivot it towards me when I want the spray and away when I don’t. Alll my products fit next to me. Since the shower door won’t close we use a tension rod and shower curtain to keep the water inside.. I dry off mostly in the shower and then put on a terry cloth coverup and get on my wheelchair which we cover with a large bath towel I too usually shower at night so I can dry my hair, use moisturizer and put on a clean nightie. My son helps with the transfers but I can
shower independently.. The shower bench and longer shower head have lessened my anxiety significantly. We also check the weather and lay out the next days clothes. Showering is anxiety producing for most of us and having a set routine helps tremendously. It also reduces the chances of an accident if things are done slowly and calmly.
🌈TheaD

First thing is make your shower or bathtub handicap friendly I have a chair with grip handles to push myself then a grab bar inside and outside the shower also a long shower head with hose to bath myself

Well, keep in mind I have a twisted sense & the fine art of distraction.
1st- both with my husband & Nancy I had them select what chair THEY wanted.
Then at the thrift store I collected a bunch of funny towels & stuff. We use liquid dove soap And the hair requires patience. I wear a bathing suit. Aisle 5, 6 7 & 8 are covered with regular beach towels. Soft mats. Cause we must get out of the bathroom. Their clothes are laided out. Saves time.
Settle them in.
If possible I take a shower &dress.
Then clean

I can shower alone; there is a. built in seat in my shower.. I put a non slip.mat on it and on the floor. I use a hand held sprayer to wash my hair and the rest of me. I also undress before going in the shower, take the time to adjust the water temperature to prevent getting burned. Once I like the feel of the water, I start And have liquid soap and shampoo within reach . And towels close to the exit. I do admit there are times when I am wobbly and anxious. when getting out. Also I bring my phone in the bathroom and put it on the floor close to the shower door. where I can reach it.