Yes. It’s one of my most annoying symptoms, and the one that got me fired from my job.

You’ll be glad to know it has very little to do with you. It’s caused by Parkinson’s. My wife and I have been married for 46 years. For 40 of those, we never fought. For the last six, I’ve been a bear to live with.

I’m afraid you’re not going to change him. I did finally convince my wife not to fight with a disease. To just walk away. I’m not offended by this, because we agreed to it. It really works quite well.

If you come up with something else, please share.

Dale I these cognitive & behavior issues are harder for me to deal with. I feel like I’m losing myself. I’m explosive at the merest thing. My executive functioning is affected which includes so many issues . How you process information, ability to make decisions,judgement., etc. Then the memory & behavior is all too much. I told my husband the same, you will only fight with the disease, so he goes out in the garage for a bit. I feel so bad for him & I am constantly asking his forgiveness which he readily gives. I am grieving the loss of myself, the ways I thought, my ability to handle pressure, my memory & I also have communication issues. I’ll try to tell my husband I heard on the news & I get lost & feel like I make a fool of myself. At other times I can communicate well but at others I can’t. I’m skipping words in my sentences as I type & forget how to spell simple things & have to use the dictionary on my phone when I’m on my iPad & I try to spell it & a lot of the time it will say “do you mean such & such & it will be the correct spelling. I sobbed for an hour at my yearly Wellness Check that Oschner provides in addition to your other physicians. It is the hardest things for me to deal with. I love how MJF says”Parkinson’s is the gift that keeps on taking” Never a truer statement. I was very organized, & had to keep my house perfect.Boy has that changed I get overwhelmed. I hear a doctor say to caregivers don’t asked them what they want for supper & give them a bunch of choices, he said they can’t handle it. Ask them between two things like would you like Italian or Mexican, any 2 thing. I have screamed at my husband when he asked me what I want for supper. Y brain almost feels like it spins, poor thing trying to please me. I say anything you fix is fine I can’t come up with anything because it is overwhelming to me. God Bless our loving caregivers. It can be a difficult job. Blessings,
Carol

Thank you. This was helpful. I know it's not me now; it's the disease.

I’ve long thought about it being more of a processing issue. I just can’t make sense if things I hear anymore. I can still make sense of what I put out, but not what I take in.

Does he trail off in mid sentence, too?

There’s an article in the resources section about Parkinson’s being like an iceberg. You only see 10% of it. The other 90% is below the surface. Read the 750 comments as well to find out the rest of the story.

This all sounds very familiar. My audiologist told me I was on the verge of needing hearing aids, but don’t need them yet, but I really can’t hear much of anything. My most common response is “what”. When my wife hollers at me I respond in exactly the way he does.

Parkinson’s fatigue is far more than being tired. I usually sleep at night, but I awake so tired that I can’t do anything. I’m usually awake by 5:00P, but still have very little ability to do anything, and even less desire, due to another symptom, apathy.

There’s also the confusion. I used to be a very efficient and effective person. I was also very organized person. Now I have what I call “jumbled brain syndrome”. I can’t rub two thoughts together. If I try I get buried under a mountain of confusion.

If I get up my wife throws a list of things to be done at me that are physically painful. Pick one, just one, and I’ll do that. Well, I’ll try. There are so many things that need to be done to accomplish that one thing that I find myself buried again.

I need to plan that one thing in small sections and those plans can not change. If we go someplace she can’t do a “While we’re out. I’ll get out of the car and start walking home.

I can handle things in small pieces and I believe I could do more if it was all planned and executed without exception. I’m a very low functioning human being now.

Your husband and I seem to be lost in the land of cognition dysfunction. I can be sent into a tirade at any moment over things that would never have bothered me pre-Parkinson’s. I can hear myself, but I have no control over what’s happening.

Parkinson’s is a brain disorder. They like to call it a movement disorder, but your movement, cognitive, memory, and personality, have all been affected by the death of brain cells in the Substantia Nigra. The first Parkinson’s symptoms don’t occur until 80% if those cells are dead. Parkinson’s effectively changes everything about you.

I understand that it’s difficult, but it’s a cross we all have to bear. Initially, she fought back when I went off. I pointed out that I never fought with her for the first 40 years of our marriage. She fought with me, but I never fought back. Why would I start now unless something had changed. I told her it wasn’t me, it was the Parkinson’s. I told her “don’t fight with a disease.” Now, she jyst walks away. We’ve made progress.