Connect with others who understand.

sign up log in
About MyParkinsonsTeam

Putting Yourself First

Posted on May 16, 2019

Have you ever put someone else’s needs ahead of your own? We all do it - we’re human, after all. There is a name for this generous tendency. Economists refer to this situation, when one person's well-being cannot be improved without making another person's position worse, as the Pareto efficiency.

One example of the Pareto efficiency is the use of oxygen masks when air pressure drops during an airline flight. If you are traveling with a child, your first instinct is to put their mask on them before fitting your own. However, as every pre-flight safety lecture insists, you must put on your own mask first before helping others. Your first action needs to be to ensure your own health and safety. Sometimes you need to override that generous tendency and think of your own survival first - then you are free to help those around you.

When living with a chronic condition, you could be impacting your overall health if you put the needs of others first. It’s okay to give yourself permission to slow down and reflect before saying ‘yes’ to helping someone else to ensure your needs have been met first. Moreover, give yourself permission to say ‘no’ with kindness. It can be empowering to do so.

Do you find yourself taking care of everyone else before taking care of yourself? Do you try to take measures to think of yourself first before saying yes?

Here are some conversations about this topic from the community:

"It's okay to say no sometimes."

"Gonna put more into my needs instead of ALWAYS taking care of everyone else."

"I am still able to live in my own home taking care of myself and the two dogs."

Comment below or post on MyParkinsonsTeam with ways you've had to put yourself first before helping others.

A MyParkinsonsTeam Member said:

I watch my 6 year old great granddaughter all the time. She and I are very close. She is very helpful to me and her Oma. I can't watch her brother he's almost 3 and with in hour I'm exhausted. He is… read more

posted 10 days ago

hug

Recent articles

More than 1 million people in the United States have been diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease...

Air Pollution and the Risk of Developing Parkinson’s

More than 1 million people in the United States have been diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease...
Tremors are one of the major symptoms of Parkinson’s disease (PD) for many people living with the...

Parkinson’s Tremors: Causes, Types, and Treatments

Tremors are one of the major symptoms of Parkinson’s disease (PD) for many people living with the...
As people age, their risk of falling increases. However, people with Parkinson’s disease...

Improving Balance Issues and Preventing Falls in Parkinson’s

As people age, their risk of falling increases. However, people with Parkinson’s disease...
Early onset Parkinson’s disease (also known as young onset Parkinson’s disease) is a form of...

Early Onset Parkinson’s Disease: Your Guide

Early onset Parkinson’s disease (also known as young onset Parkinson’s disease) is a form of...
People with Parkinson’s disease may be eligible for additional doses of the Pfizer and Moderna...

Are People With Parkinson’s Eligible for Moderna and Johnson & Johnson Booster Shots?

People with Parkinson’s disease may be eligible for additional doses of the Pfizer and Moderna...
Lewy body dementia (LBD) is an umbrella term for two related types of dementia — dementia with...

Lewy Body Dementia: Causes and Symptoms

Lewy body dementia (LBD) is an umbrella term for two related types of dementia — dementia with...
Parkinson’s disease (PD) is a progressive movement disorder that causes symptoms such as...

Deep Brain Stimulation for Parkinson’s: How Does It Work?

Parkinson’s disease (PD) is a progressive movement disorder that causes symptoms such as...
Parkinson’s disease (PD) is more than a disorder of movement and motor function. Cognitive...

Memory Function and Parkinson’s Disease

Parkinson’s disease (PD) is more than a disorder of movement and motor function. Cognitive...
Lewy body dementia (LBD) is an umbrella term for two types of similar dementias: dementia with...

Lewy Body Dementia: Diagnosis and Treatment

Lewy body dementia (LBD) is an umbrella term for two types of similar dementias: dementia with...
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommended Pfizer COVID-19 vaccine booster...

COVID-19 Vaccine Boosters and Additional Doses for People With Parkinson's: Current Guidelines

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommended Pfizer COVID-19 vaccine booster...
MyParkinsonsTeam My Parkinson's disease Team

Thank you for signing up.

Want more content, community, and support from others living with Parkinson's disease?

Join MyParkinsonsTeam

close